One of the most common questions I get asked a working psychic is, of course, "Does So and So love me?" So many people think that if they just get So and So to love them, propose to them, marry them, that things will be PERFECT in their life. One person in particular doesn't care about whether the relationship is working or not, she just wants that ring. All she cares about is getting the ring and the fact that she has not yet gotten it. She hasn't yet seen that by focusing on the lack of the ring, and the INCREDIBLE emotional response she has to that fact, she is continuing to create more of the same.
People often want to change the rules mid stream as well. You are told at the beginning, "I don't believe in marriage, I don't want to get married, but I'm great with commitment!" So, why would you think that the rules can be changed because you decide that you want to get married? That person loves you, the relationship is a good, strong relationship. You can't see that. You are too busy wanting to get married and feeling like it's not valid if you aren't married. "If he / she loved me enough, he / she would just marry me." His / her level of love for you has NOTHING to do with the fact that he / she is not wanting marriage.
He / she needs time out with friends and family. There are going to be times that he / she walks in the other room to finish a conversation on the phone. That does not automatically mean he / she is cheating on you. He / she will not tell you everything. That does not mean he / she is lying to you.
If you are feeling a lack, it can't be filled by another person. You need to fill the lack first. Quit blaming him / her for your belief system, self worth levels, and past experiences. If you're not happy, he / she can't make you happy.
When it's right, you know it's right. There is no question. It flows. It is relatively simple. You WANT to make it work. You can't wait to see him / her. If you are asking yourself on a consistent basis, "I wonder if this is REALLY right for me?" or "Should I stay in this?"....the answer is most of the time is NO.
Relationships are not hearts, flowers and romance all the time. They are not easy. Dr. Wayne Dyer says your true soulmates are the people who piss you off the most. You will fight. You will break up. You will be afraid. Do it anyway if you REALLY want love. If you want someone to make you feel different than you do now, stop wasting your time.
Have a loving day!!!
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